Friday, August 10, 2007 IF only

Something that I read this morning(my friend sent it hoping to "squeeze" some more tears out of me.. she succeeded in turning the "tap" and made me cry non-stop. I am where I am(not that I have very successful or very happy etc) because
1. God took His chance in leading me, in loving me when no one would, in not giving up on me when many have long given up
2. Friends who took their chance in praying with and for me. "Scolding" me whenever I am stubborn and standing by me when I simply needed someone to

All of us desire to be loved, all of us desire to be given a 2nd chance when we fail.

If only we would take heed to His Word - do unto others what we want others to do unto us - we would not be so hard on others, we would not have given up so easily.

If only we would ask Him to help us see another through His eyes - the potential that He had deposited in another - to be a friend to help spur another to greater growth.

If only... then we will never be the same again.

Robby's NightTrue Story
My name is Mildred Hondorf. I am a former elementary school music teacher from Des Moines, Iowa I've always supplemented my income by teaching pianolessons-something I've done for over 30 years.

Over the years I found that children have many levels of musicalability. I've never had the pleasure of having a prodigy though I have taught some talented students. However I've also had my share of what I call "musically challenged"pupils. One such student was Robby. Robby was 11 years old when his mother (a single Mom) dropped him off for his first piano lesson. I prefer that students (especially boys!) begin at an earlier age, whichI explained to Robby.But Robby said that it had always been his mother's dream to hear him play the piano. So I took him as a student.

Well, Robby began with his piano lessons and from the beginning I thought it was a hopeless endeavor. As much as Robby tried, he lacked the sense of tone and basic rhythm needed to excel.. But he dutifully reviewed his scales and some elementary pieces that I require all my students to learn.

Over the months he tried and tried while I listened and cringed and tried to encourage him. At the end of each weekly lesson he'd always say, "My mom's going to hear me play someday." But it seemed hopeless. He just did not have any inborn ability. I only knew his mother from a distance as she dropped Robby off or waited in her aged car to pick him up. She always waved and smiled but never stopped in.Then one day Robby stopped coming to our lessons.I thought about calling him but assumed because of his lack of ability, that he had decided to pursue something else. I also was glad that he stopped coming He was a bad advertisement for my teaching!

Several weeks later I mailed to the student's homes a flyer on the upcoming recital. To my surprise Robby (who received a flyer) asked me if he could be in the recital. I told him that the recital was for current pupils and because he had dropped out he really did not qualify. He said that his mother had been sick and unable to take him to piano lessons but he was still practicing. "Miss Hondorf I've just got to play!" he insisted.I don't know what led me to allow him to play in the recital. Maybe it was his persistence or maybe it was something inside of me saying that it would be all right.

The night for the recital came. The high school gymnasium was packed with parents, friends and relatives. I put Robby up last in the program before I was to come up and thank all the students and play a finishing piece. I thought that any damage hewould do would come at the end of the program and I could always salvage his poor performance through my "curtain closer."Well, the recital went off without a hitch.. The students had been practicing and it showed. Then Robby came up on stage. His clothes were wrinkled and his hair looked like he'd run an eggbeater through it. "Why didn't he dress up like the other students?" I thought. "Why didn't his mother at least make him comb his hair for this special night?"

Robby pulled out the piano bench and he began. I was surprised when he announced that he had chosen Mozart's Concerto #21 in C Major. I was not prepared for what I heard next. His fingers were light on the keys, they even danced nimbly on the ivories. He went from pianissimoto fortissimo. From allegro to virtuoso. His suspended chords thatMozart demands were magnificent! Never had I heard Mozart played so well by people his age. After six and a half minutes he ended in a grand crescendo and everyone was on their feet in wild applause. Overcome and in tears I ran up on stage and put my arms around Robby in joy. "I've never heard you play like that Robby! How'd you do it? "Through the microphone Robby explained: "Well Miss Hondorf . .. .. remember I told you my Mom was sick? Well, actually she had cancer and passed away this morning. And well . she was born deaf so tonight wasthe first time she ever heard me play. I wanted to make it special."There wasn't a dry eye in the house that evening. As the people from Social Services led Robby from the stage to be placed into foster care, noticed that even their eyes were red and puffy and I thought to myself how much richer my life had been for taking Robby as my pupil. No, I've never had a prodigy but that night I became a prodigy. . of Robby's. He was the teacher and I was the pupil For it is he that taught me the meaning of perseverance and love and believing in yourself and maybe even taking a chance in someone and you don't know why.Robby was killed in the senseless bombing of the Alfred P. MurrahF ederal Building in Oklahoma City in April of 1995.

The person who sent this to you believes that we can all make a difference. So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with ac hoice: Do we act with compassion or do we pass up that opportunity and leave the world a bit colder in the process?